Single People’s Lives Matter #Thedarksideofbeingsingle

By notoriouslysinglegirl, January 12, 2025

Single and shining bright like a Diamond.

-Unknown

Los Angeles is on fire. It’s crazy and definitely apocalyptic.

One thing that stood out to me was a single gal on TikTok sitting in her car and saying: “ it’s hard for us single people. We have to evacuate ourselves. There’s nobody there for emotional support.”

And then there was the astute legal couple only offering up ‘free’ hotel rooms on IG to people who had children.

What about the single people? What if that single person was disabled? Would they just get thrown off of the Titanic and made to fend for themselves?

Discrimination against single people is real

I remember working at a large hospital with a bunch of other nurse practitioners who were all women. It seemed like the gals who were married and had children all got special “privileges.”

Leaving early several times a month to pick up children from school was the common excuse. And guess who has to pick up the slack? The single people.

“Oh well you don’t have kids.”

That was the common saying and the “single” people were always expected to do more work and pick up the married with children’s peoples slack.

Of course, I complained and quickly became the villain.

Oh, and if you live in a complex where there’s lots of children screaming their heads off in the pool in front of you’re house, God forbid you complain. Yes, you’re also the villain.

“Well, you don’t have kids that’s why you complain!”

Oh yes. Because I’m single I have no right to peace and quiet.

And then you hear stupid comments from the ex con’s ( I did a background check and the woman served time and had 30 alias’s) who’s renting the unit next to yours: “maybe you are so angry because you need a man. Go find yourself a man”

Maybe I was so angry because I got up at 4am to work an 8 hour shift and came home to take a nap and couldn’t sleep because you’re children were screaming their heads off!

Oh and yes. I could tell how happy this woman was. Screaming profanities at her baby daddy, her so called man because he didn’t come home. And he was probably off with some other woman or man. Nothing surprises me these days.

Oh but wait, I guess single people don’t need sleep. In these so called “married” people’s world “single” people don’t matter.

I even remember when a friend of mine never invited me to her child’s birthday parties because I was single.

“Well, you don’t have kids. I didn’t think you wanted to come?” Hmmm? Maybe ask me and don’t assume. That’s ok, as my moms says, I saved money by not going and not having to buy a gift.

And then there was the conversation with the wife of a fire chief where she complained “ I was often left home alone with two children.”

Well, at least you had a husband who was providing for you.

Try moving all by yourself from 2 homes. Try selling and purchasing a home all by yourself. Try figuring out how you’re going to pay the mortgage when you got furloughed during Covid.

This fire chiefs wife couldn’t hack half of the things I’ve been through as a single person. Hence why she’s been married for 36 years and morbidly unhappy. Otherwise, if she was happy she wouldn’t be complaining.

Sometimes people’s thinking process is so archaic and narcissistic. Just like the 2 attorneys only offering free hotel rooms to people with children. Thankfully, AirBnB provided free shelter to ANYONE who got a evacuated due to the fires. I know because I saw several TikTok’s of single people checking in. Thanks AirBnB for caring.

Were single people pushed off the Titanic?

I once had a past life regression done where I saw myself as a wealthy single woman on board the Titanic. I was going to America to be married. As the Titanic began to sink, I saw and “felt” myself being pushed off by a ships porter in maritime uniform. I remember feeling the water as ice cold and I could no longer hold on to the life saver. Slowly, I saw myself sinking into the frigid water. I remember looking back at the porter and he had a devilish look on his face. And this person somehow found himself back into my real life as a shady pediatric neurologist who was committing fraud at the county hospital I worked at.

As I was being regressed and saw myself drowning, I felt all the air leave my lungs. I was gasping for air under hypnosis. It was a terrifying experience. But more terrifying than dying was the guy porter who plunged me to my death and showed back up in my life as my boss.

The doctor was shady and after 6 weeks of working for him, I outed him for his scrupulous practices. I don’t think I’ll ever forget the day I had a meeting with him and told him to stop what he was doing since he was putting the lives of many children at risk. He sat across from me shaking as I threatened to tell his chief. “Do it. I dare you,” he said still trembling. I reported him to his chief. I had ample evidence from all the research I was conducting regarding this doctor committing insurance fraud. I reported him to HR and ethics. And once again, I was the villain!

The weird thing was, I had a bizarre premonitory dream before I got this job where I sat in the middle of several women and one man. My last day on the job, I was called into an office where several women sat around a round table and the shady doctor was there. I was being forced to sign a new contract and a woman by the name of “Nicole” who was the HR director sat and screamed at me when I asked for legal representation.

Of course I refused to sign the contract and resigned from my job the next day. No, there was nobody at home to comfort me from what I just experienced.

In my opinion, the “save the women and children “ analogy is just wrong. How about we save everybody.

As a single woman for many years, I’ve learned to adapt through crazy times. Just because I don’t go around telling people sob stories over lunch at 5 star hotels, doesn’t mean I’ve lived a life without struggle.

Single peoples lives matter. Don’t assume. Don’t judge until you’ve heard that person’s story.