Why Does He Only Text On Holidays Part 2: TikTok Stories #12DaysofChristmas
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Seeing isn’t believing. Believing is seeing.
- Judy the Xmas elf, The Santa Clause
Yes, the Xmas text from “Holiday Text Guy,” came in at 7:29 am on Xmas morning. It was followed by a Xmas meme where Jim Bellushi is sitting on a couch dressed like an elf intertwined with Xmas lights. I guess he needed an early dopamine hit to get his Xmas day going. The meme says it all.
And yes I did text back at around 9:30 am while I was on my Xmas walk and then I sent him this picture
The Void They Have Inside
Girlthepoet on TikTok shares a similar story. And she has a great explanation for why these “Holiday Text Guys” start texting on the holidays.
“There’s a little flirtation going on and then the next day they are back to ghost mode as if that conversation never happened.”
Girlthepoet further comments that:
“They have a void inside and texting you is filling that void. Now they feel better because you supplied them with the dopamine that they needed. They got what they wanted and now their brain has said ‘oh I don’t actually want that and poof they are back to their old tricks!“
They have the audacity to come back into your phone and send you a message
Natalie Louise @Wanderlusqt on TikTok also shares her “Holiday Text Guy” story and makes some excellent points by saying:
“They broke up with you. They did not want you in their life. They didn’t text you. They stopped thinking about you. They stopped watching your story. They literally disengaged from you a long time ago. And then they have the AUDACITY to come into your phone and send you a ‘Merry Christmas’ text!”
“You were off opening presents spending time with your family. You were literally minding you’re own business. You’re doing you’re own shit you’re trying to move on. You’re trying to heal yourself. You’re trying to forget about them. And you’re phone is just sitting on the table. It just starts lighting up and it says their name.”
Here’s where Natalie Louise makes a face and says “and you’re heart drops.”
“The rest of Christmas now you’re just thinking about them. You’re like WTF.and in your mind you’re like ‘Oh their going to come back that’s why their texting me. Or ‘why are they texting me? Are they wanting to come back?’ You have an ego boost for a hot second. And then you’re like ‘wait a minute they literally only sent me a merry Xmas text.”
Natalie Louise then explains “From Xmas day up until now you have literally been thinking about them.”
And it’s true!
The Audacity!
Where do they get it from? They think that they can drop you. Stop talking to you and just reappear on Xmas or your birthday.
Natalie Louise calls these holiday text guys “Avoidant Attachments.” She also explains that these guys will text on holidays because it’s one of the easiest ways to reconnect with someone after a long time.
That’s exactly what Chat Gpt said when I asked about this phenomenon. I posted the answers Chat Gpt gave me in part one.
“That avoidant partner just wants to see how you react. They want to see do I still have you because they like the option of you. They like you’re energy they like talking to you. They like hanging out with you but they know that you want more. And they they probably say to themselves ‘ok, I’m just going to see if the store is still open!”
They’re only communicating with me because they view me as an “option.”
“You always need some sort of “hits” from them or an emotional connection in order to feel stable, normal, ok. “
Natalie Louis’s advice for dealing with this conundrum:
- Learn to regulate your nervous system because they are now regulating you’re nervous system.
- Learn how to make yourself feel safe.
- Remove them from the equation.
Why is there a pattern
I personally don’t believe in attachment styles. And yes, the answer definitely is to cut off all forms of communication with these types of emotionally unhealthy people.I personally do not follow “holiday text guy” on any social media platforms. I don’t watch any of his stories, reels or posts. At one point I did catch him obsessively liking all my posts on LinkedIn and I called him out on it. His response “ I just want to be friends.” My response “I don’t want to be friends.”
Sorry. We are not children. We are grown ass adults.
But what I don’t understand is why this phenomenon is happening to so many women. And these women that I mentioned above are much younger than I am. I guess my question is, where is this coming from? Is it the porn? Video games? Excessive use of plastics? Extra estrogen?
Something is not right. Again, I don’t believe it has anything to do with attachment styles but all to do with hormonal imbalances and emotional immaturity. These guys need to go and get their testosterone, estrogen and cortisol levels checked. And the women need to BLOCk their phones!
And perhaps when his next text message comes in at 12:01 am on 01/01/2025 you should just text him:
Non rompere e coglione!
The End!
notoriouslysinglegirl 
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