My cousin recently asked Chat GPT to create a 3 day itinerary to Los Angeles. Another friend asked Chat GPT to come up with ideas for a new business plan. I decided to ask Chat GPT why that one guy that I dated in 2019 and then in 2020 only texts me on holidays.
Happy 4th of July. Happy Thanksgiving followed by a Cosmo Kramer Turkey meme. And then there’s always the text right at the stroke of midnight, actually at 12:01 am “Happy New Year,” followed by the typical iphone explosion of digital confetti.
Why? Why only on Holidays?
Personally, my theory is that he’s some kind of time traveler. We’re not living on the same timeline. We’re not sharing the same frequency ie bandwidth, so it’s virtually impossible to make contact with a person living in another reality.
Perhaps this guy feels ‘happy’ on the holidays. And that’s when his frequency ie bandwidth is able to match up with mine. It kinda make sense because this guy is usually on the same frequency that Eyeore from Winnie the Pooh is.
Chat GPT however, has a more realistic response.
It can be confusing and frustrating when someone you’re dating only reaches out during the holidays, especially if you’re looking for more consistent communication or a deeper connection. There are a few potential reasons why this might happen, and understanding them could help you gain clarity about the situation:
1. Holiday Nostalgia or Tradition
For some people, holidays bring a sense of nostalgia or a desire to reconnect with past relationships. They might reach out because the season evokes emotions or a need for a “comfort zone.” It doesn’t necessarily mean they want something more serious or consistent, but rather they’re feeling sentimental or reflective.
2. Low Effort or Convenience
Some people, especially those who are not looking for a committed relationship, may only reach out during the holidays because it’s “easy” or expected. Texting around the holidays may feel like a safe way to keep in touch without putting in the effort of maintaining regular communication or a relationship. It’s a way to check in or stay in someone’s life, but without much investment.
3. Fear of Emotional Intensity
If the guy has mixed feelings or isn’t emotionally ready for a deeper connection, the holidays might feel like a “safe” time to engage. Sometimes, people feel more pressure around other times of the year (e.g., when things might get too real or serious), but the holidays can offer a more socially acceptable excuse for reaching out without the need for emotional depth or long-term commitment.
4. Busy Schedule or Life Circumstances
For some, life just gets in the way. Maybe he’s in a busy phase of his life where he’s juggling work, personal commitments, or other relationships, and he doesn’t prioritize texting regularly. Reaching out during holidays could be a natural break in his routine when he feels he has a bit more mental space or time to touch base.
5. They’re Interested, But Not That Interested
It’s possible that he is interested in you, but perhaps not to the extent that you might want. He might enjoy your company or think about you, but he’s not motivated enough to keep a consistent relationship or communication going. The holidays can feel like an acceptable time to reach out without feeling the pressure to build something more consistent.
6. Comfort With Low Stakes
Some people prefer to keep things low-stakes or casual, especially when they’re not sure what they want. Texting around the holidays allows him to maintain a connection with you without any pressure to commit, engage in deeper conversations, or follow through on consistent communication. For him, it might feel like a way to “keep the door open” without fully walking through it.
7. He’s Just Not That Into You (But Likes Having You Around)
This is a hard pill to swallow, but it’s possible that he’s not as interested in pursuing a deeper relationship, but still likes having you in his life as a backup or an occasional connection. Some people are comfortable with shallow connections where they don’t have to invest much emotionally, but still like the validation or attention that comes from reaching out on a special occasion.
What Should You Do?
If you’re feeling frustrated or confused by this behavior, it might be worth having an honest conversation with him about what you’re looking for. You can express your feelings about the inconsistency of the communication and ask where he sees things going, especially if you’re hoping for something more regular or serious.
Here are a few tips:
Set Expectations: Let him know what you’re looking for in terms of communication and how you want to be treated, and ask him directly about his intentions. This can help you gauge if you’re both on the same page.
Gauge His Response: Pay attention to how he responds. Does he make an effort to explain his actions or show that he values a deeper connection, or does he seem indifferent? His response can give you clarity on whether it’s worth investing more time or energy.
Consider Your Needs: Evaluate whether this situation aligns with what you want in a relationship. If you’re looking for consistency and emotional availability, you may need to decide whether this type of interaction is enough for you.
Ultimately, it’s about understanding your own worth and making sure you’re receiving the kind of respect and attention you deserve. If his actions aren’t aligning with your needs, it might be worth reassessing whether it’s worth pursuing further.
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