Are You Dating An 8th Grader? #AskNotoriouslysinglegirl

By notoriouslysinglegirl, November 7, 2024

If you want to be happy, plant a garden

Martha Stewart

“I have to tell you about the guy I’m dating. I think he’s an 8th grader. Well, at least he acts like one!”

This was a text I got from my friend. She’s back in the dating app game and apparently she’s dating a guy stuck in 8th grade.

There were many red flags to the text:

• He was sent to Human Resources for hazing a new employee.
• He talked about his ex girlfriend all night
• He likes to skateboard

I think my friend is dating an 8th grader.

What’s going on with this guy

“Well, if you “think” you’re dating an 8th grader you probably are.” I responded.

After all, my friend much like myself, has spent three decades in pediatrics, we understand “kid personalities” that tend to dwell in fractured egos. This poor man is clueless and living his life so unconsciously that he doesn’t even realize he’s letting his 8th grade self run the show in his adulthood.

“He probably had some type of child trauma when he was in 8th grade. Whenever that trauma gets triggered in adulthood, he reverts to that personality type. It’s the fractured ego split in multiple different parts.” I responded back.

I encouraged my friend to play “devils advocate” and ask the guy if he had some type of trauma. She said she would. She’s saving the answer for when we meet up for our monthly wine & gossip session.

I’m putting my money on “yes,” this dude has got some type of trauma lingering somewhere.

I’ve dated so many of these types of guys and personally, I’m going the Martha Stewart route and planting a garden. I think she’s on to something, after all she’s a billionaire.

To Be Continued …